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Originally Posted by enggirl
Yes, we do have an attorney on board. And I do understand that she can revoke her consent up to 10 days after the birth. I am aware of all of that and I guess I just keep thinking the odds of this actually happening can't be that good. But, she does continue to tell me she won't change her mind.
The waiting is just so hard! I would love to get pregnant and have my own, but after this, that seems like the easy way to go! That probably doesn't make a lick of sense!!
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Hi, I know how hard it is and I am so sorry you are felling like this, but IT IS ALL worth it in the end. Trust me on that!! We didn't do our adoption from a family member but we meet the birthmom because her uncle and mine were friends. Well we had a little hope she wouldn't change her mind b/c she was 15. And the Bf was for the adoption as well as both sides of their families. Even with that it was the most nerve wracking thing to go through. You want to be excited and do all the stuff you would if you were pregnant but you always have that n the back of your mind,"what if"
Well I did paint the nursery but didnt order furniture. I didnt have a shower until the baby came home.
Unfortunately no matter what I tell you and that in the end it all worked out for us, You just can't be sure until she signs and the waiting period is over. It sucks!
We had a failed situation where we saw the baby for 45 min in the nursery and didnt go home with the baby. So when we had the situation with our son, we were a little scared.
But I think the positive thing is that she knows you and wouldn't want to hurt you and is probably pretty sure before she even brought it up to you. It sounds like she will still get to hear about and see the baby which could also be a good indicator. We are still in contact with our sons birthmom and she feels so good being able to see he is happy and healthy and it gives her peace. she just wrote me and said she was happy she could change someones life for the better by choosing us for his parents.
My advice is to stay in close contact with her let the things she does and says ease your mind a little, thats what I did. We emailed and talked almost everyday and I think we felt like his parents to them because of that.
Good luck, and I am here if you need to chat.
Oh yeah, btw that does make sense about getting pregnant. I too went through 6 yrs of infertility stuff and that was so much easier, hard but easier!!