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Originally Posted by smurray
[ i was adopted thru cath. char. in illinois, they charge a few hundred bucks for non id info which sucks! you can get a confindential intermediary if there is one in your state that can ask the judge to open file then they contact your ma or dad and see if they want contact etc.. i am in that process right now, good luck! i was adopted in 1960, well, born in 60 adopted 61.  QUOTE=lisa nevius]I was adopted through Catholic Charities in 1954. When I was 18 I went searching for answers. They originally told me my birthmother was 18 when she had me. My birthfather was overseas but he lived in Virginia and he was around the age of 20. I thought I had found a match based on this information I had. So I contacted Catholic Charities for some more info. if they had it. NOW they are telling me, my birthmother was 27,my birthfather was 30 and lived in Illinois. I am so confused. I have heard that Catholic Charities does whatever they can to protect the birth family. Even if it means changing your date of birth on your birth certificate. Can someone please help me with any info. or opinions they may have? All help will be greatly appreciated. Thank you and god bless. |
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That sound pretty standard for CC. I was born in MO. Several years ago that is the route I took. I paid the fees for the Non id info and they assigned a CI to try to contact the natural parents. They did not bother with the father..not sure why but got a locate on the mother who never replied and after several months the case was closed. I would suggest getting your non id infomation. all your adoption papers with court dates and numbers. I don't know IL law but MO law requires for a search permission of the adoptive parents no matter how old the adoptee is and if the adoptive parents are deceased you need proof by way of death certificates. When I ran into a dead end I hired a good and well known PI to get the information .
If you go that route, be prepared for the worst..that the natural family does not want contact. It happens to some of us. Also if you use a PI make sure there is a clause of NO FIND NO FEE AND check them out carefully before going ahead. Not all are good. Other avenues are search angels which can be very helpful and successful. Good luck.