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Old 02-17-2009, 08:37 AM
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It's going to be huge that you don't have the language barrier, however, it will also slow down her learning of English. I don't know if you can get books from someplace like Amazon where you are, but there are some good adoption books. Other things kids sometimes beleive when they are adopted (all these from either my kids, or kids I know personally) they may believe that you are thier birth parents, you left them and came back for them. They may beleive that once they are adopted they never have to do anything again, they will be waited on hand and foot and have anything they want handed to them on a silver platter. They often beleive you will send them back if they misbehave and may want to get that over with (the I'm going to break up with you before you can break up with me syndrome). They may worry about whether or not you will beat them. One thing that helps is explaining that the Judge granted the adoption and that means you are mom and dad forever and ever. That has helped my kids beleive it's real. IF you can get books, you can read them and translate them. Or read them in both languages. Good luck!
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