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Old 02-16-2009, 08:34 PM
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Originally Posted by hopingforachild


As I said, we have only spoken by phone on one occasion. While I had a really positive feeling about her, there is a history of jail time and possible drug use. I am just trying to be careful... I can always share more, but I can't take it back.

Until I read that paragraph, I was with those who asked "why don't you want her to know your number?".
But, from that paragraph, it sounds like there may be legitimate concerns.

I'm actually surprised by how negative some of the responses were. I agree that, in most situations, openness is the best. But some people (both birth- and adoptive-parents) need time to be comfortable with that.

Overall, I'd say that giving her a real phone number wouldn't bother me, based on what you've said.

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Child #1: Is that your mother?
Child #2: Yes.
Child #1: Why is she white and you are black?
Child #2: Because I am adopted, and black people have more melanin than white people do.
Child #1: Oh, let's go on the high bars.
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