[kakuehl]

Someone once said, our parents are stronger than we realize. It is your decision to seek your family of origin, people do so for many reasons. I agree with those who say talk to you parents about it. (You might want to open a conversation with your sister too!)

It's been 3 years since I found my bson. I know it was difficult for his mom at first. D has made it clear by his actions that she is his mom; the relationship with me doesn't change that (I don't want it too, btw.) Because D does include me in family gatherings -- birthday parties, etc., his mom and I have been able to build our own relationship. Of course, I have made it clear that I consider her to be mom, grandma, etc. and I think that helps. (I haven't asked.) Sometimes the fear of the unknown is worse than reality!

A picture of D's mom with one of her grandson's: