[jnrjhanson]

My advice: Get yourself a new counselor. This is serious behavior, and frankly, if your daughter does have RAD, there is a chance that she could, in fact, kill one of you. Any worker who blows off suicide/homicide threats needs to be reported to their supervisor.

I'm not saying that she WILL kill herself or one of you, but frankly, it has happened. There are certain connections in the brain that don't happen when a child develops RAD, and they lose the ability to know right from wrong or have any sort of empathy. They can become sociopathic, killing animals and burning down their house at night.

I know I sound extreme, but the extreme does happen, and things like this should be taken seriously. So... get a new case worker, therapist, counselor, psycologist, whomever! And get into attachment therapy! (Not the re-birthing crap- more like play therapy, etc). Good luck!