[maderosa]

Hi--I'm new here. We are about to adopt a 4.5yo girl into our family. We already have two boys, aged 7.5 and nearly 11, by birth. It is an international adoption, but we are currently living in the country where the child is, and have been for 4 years. We will return to Canada later this year after the adoption is over.

Due to HUGE uncertainties in the process, we have not discussed the adoption with the other children, but now it seems virtually sure that it will go ahead. We may have our little girl with us anytime between two weeks and two months from now. So, this weekend we will be telling the boys the news.

My husband and I have spent hours, weeks, months...thinking about and preparing for this adoption, going over all the possibilities, mulling over the challenges, questioning whether it's right. We are going in with our eyes open, and after a lot of reflection. And having done all that preparation, we are very happy and excited that it is finally going to happen--because for a long time it seemed that it wasn't going to!

But now that we're down to the crunch, and especially now that it's time to tell our other kids, I am SOOOO anxious. I would really appreciate any advice, experiences, or ideas from people who have experienced similar situations.

Thank you in advance!