[SchmennaLeigh]

I would not have matched with or stayed matched with a family that couldn't trust me to know their names. They knew all of my info from the very beginning and likewise. That level of trust is necessary to have that open, honest communication. The lack of sharing of that information screams, "I don't trust you," and where does that leave open, honest communication?

Furthermore, I don't think you want to get into a situation where you're either purchasing things for her (prepaid cells, phone cards) as, since you don't have that trust, she could call whomever she wanted. Nor do you really want to create an extra expense for yourself because, hey, have you seen the economy? Add in the financial stresses that come with a newborn and, well, my guess is that would be one of your first things to lapse if push came to shove.