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Why is there no counseling for adoptive parents?
We have it for birthparents and adopted kids. I'm going through reunion issues with my 12 year old and half the time I'm a wreck, but there's nobody who specializes in helping the adoptive mom (the one who jumped through all the hoops to get all the information). It's not fun reading stuff like "Dear B---(birthmother) I think about you all the time and want you to love me. There is a hole in my heart without you. I love you, mommy." Yes, it's normal, but it does hurt me, yet I have nobody to tell. Anyone else find that there is plenty of support for birthmothers and adoptees, but none for us? If I don't get counseling I'm going to lose my mind since I'm doing most of the facilitating to open up a closed adoption (one that THEY closed). It hurts. I love my kids with all my heart, soul, and every cell in my being. Am I not entitled to feel hurt that she longs for her birthmother? I could deal with it if I had a professional to talk to. Just a vent.
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