[kakuehl]

I would also say, give her the opportunity to talk about how she's doing, but don't push it. Is she getting counseling? Even if she remains convinced this was the right choice for her she needs to know that it's normal (and good) to grieve. Thirty-six years later I remain convinced that the decision to place was the best one at the time for my firsborn. That doesn't mean there isn't still some pain. I love him now, as I did then. I still want the best for him.