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Beth, Wow, I as an adoptee, do not have advice for you. I mean, if you do give info you hurt your son, if you don't tell you hurt your son. I guess if I were in your shoes I would answer any question my adopted child had. I would wait to give any painful info until he was old enough to process it in a mature way. Although, when you get to the point of trying to resolve issues of being an adoptee, I found I felt like a little girl again, scared, alone etc (part of the afamily dynamics).
I think, keep your mind open. I don't think I would make a decision yes or no and then let that be it. You sound like an amom who wants open, honest communication with her son, I think you should focus on that. My aparents had pat anwers to all the questions and they never changed them. Kind of always leaves you wanting more info.
Good luck!
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