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Originally Posted by susie_book
As a bmom, I would have been horrified if my son's parents had asked me to do something like this. I wanted them to plan on his becoming theirs, but while I was pregnant, he was mine--and asking me to journal for them would have been waaay overstepping their bounds. Don't get me wrong, I'm really close to his parents and totally love them, but in my opinion it's really inappropriate, however well-intended. Also, any journaling that I did would have had a lot of anger and grief--that may not be something you want to share with your child, at least not in such a raw form.
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I absolutely agree with you. I kept a journal and I don't plan on baby's mom ever seeing it (though baby might one day) becasue I think it would make her feel horrible and it's very personal to me.
If she had asked me to keep a pregnancy journal, I would have given her a flat out "no" and I wouldn't have been very nice about it either. Baby's parents are amazing, they attended prenatal appointments and such even, but that would have crossed a major line for me. It was VERY important to me that the a-parents respected the pregnancy as mine (my decisions and mine to experience) because after TPR, the parenting is theirs. We have visits but I won't get to experince parenting Baby and making those decisions because I'm not the parent.