[lucyjoy]

Fe elings are what they are so not sure they can be classified as right or wrong.

When kids hit the teen years, they often repeat thier 2 year old behavior(only they are much bigger). Are you working with a therapist who understands adoption and trauma? Do either you or your mother participate in her therapy sessions?

The onset of puberty is also a big trigger for kids who were sexually abused. Not sure if you have background info that would help identify if this could be an issue.

It sounds like this child has a lot of power she cannot handle. Try not to respond to her nasty remarks. 'i hate you" sometimes gets a calm response of either "Sorry you feel that way" or "I'm sure you do" followed by whatever request prompted the outburst. Same with "I wish you'd never adopted me."

Hope things get better.