Questioning my choice.....
I guess I was wondering if there are any other birth mothers on here that placed a child, already having other children at home.
I just had my daughter on the 21st, so this is still a very fresh pain. I guess I'm just feeling bad because I have two children at home who I am a wonderful mother to. I was 17 went I had my first daughter, and I chose to parent her even though most of the people in my family weren't supportive of that decision.
I work a decent job, live on my own, take care of two children, am married, have one semester of school left. I am great mother, my children are all very advanced for there ages (My 3 year old is starting to learn to read).
I decided to place my daughter Suki because she is not my husbands child. He was upset, and Suki's birth father has been practically non-existent to me since I was 12 weeks. My family was also very upset and non-supportive of me parenting her because my youngest daughter is only 18 months.
My daughter is going to be adopted by my Aunt and my Uncle, and the only reason for me continuing with the adoption and planning on signing my consent tomorrow is the fact that they have had so much money and time invested in her. Adoption is very expensive for adoptive parents, and I feel that if I changed my mind they would hate me forever, all of my family would hate me.
Is it wrong for me to sign the consent feeling like this? My husband now accepts Suki, and told me that if I chose to parent her he would love her like he loves our children. He's been talking about her like she's his daughter for the past month or so. It's just hard because I feel like I'm just going through with this so I don't hurt my Aunt and my Uncle, and so my family won't hate me....
I guess I need some advice... I've been stressed and crying. My oldest daughter is so confused, she doesn't understand why the baby didn't come home. Everytime I try to talk to her about the baby she cries, in the hospital when I told her Suki wasn't coming home she cried and cried. This is so stressful for me...I'm just not sure what to do
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