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I initially went to thru a private agency becaue the state agency advised us to. My mom was a Social Worker for the state agency so that was my "go to" agency when dh and I started the process. We were in a small state where the state agency required that you begin the process thru a private agency but once you were H/S ready they would consider you for the placement of children in their custody. Now this was 20 years ago and before there were MAPP classes or PRIDE classes.
The second time we had moved to a state where the state agency would not even talk to us because they had a two year back log of uncompleted home studies. We again went to a private agency that placed children in state custody. Third time we were pretty leery of the state because we had had two truly evil and horribly ignorant SW from the state try to take our child in our second adoption (they decided that we were not racially appropriate to raise a biracial child because we were the wrong flavor of biracial. I was Black and dh was white and according to them our dd would not be raised black enough because only with a black father would that happen.
We had been burned as didn't trust them. By # 4 we had gotten over that and had worked with some really cool people from the county and would have worked with them but we did not qualify because of sometimes the kids slept in the same room and we refused to lie about it. The private agencies had no issue but the state did. It is highly unlikely that I would do another adoption but if I did it would be foster/adopt and I would go private again again because of our house. I would be willing to add on or re-arrange but I would also need an agency willing to work with me and the county has proven that it will not while the private agencies will.
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