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Originally Posted by DannieAS
In this forum on a.com it is evident that some people absolutely adore agencies and others are really wanting to go through the state...
What lead you to choose which way to go and why? I do tend to hear a lot of negative like comments about going through the foster system/state/county and wonder why is that? I"m wondering if that has anything to do with not knowing the ins and outs of state like systems? For example I know some teachers/professors/my good friend a speech therapist as well all went through the state/county for adoption...I'm wondering if maybe we're not afraid of the system because we know the crap that goes on already????
Is choosing an agency primarily because you would like to adopt an infant instead of an older child toddler-teenager?
I think it's always interesting to know where different people's perspectives on this is. It's so different for everyone, and I do think that this is great!
God bless all of you who have gone through it all and have finalized and to those of us who are going through the steps.  |
Our original plan was to go through children's services in our province. But they took so long to even start our homestudy that after a year, we decided to move to a private agency. DD came to us 20 months after we applied with the agency. In that time, children's services called and we did do a homestudy through them as well, but were approved basically at the same time that DD was born. We went on hold for the year they require.
When DD was a year old, we applied again to the private agency and children's services. DS came to us 15 months after our second application for the private agency, and we were only approved through children's services a few weeks before he came.
The system didn't work for us and as much as we wanted to go through foster care, we just couldn't wait like they required. We felt we needed to move forward with our plans for a family.
We recently made the decision NOT to do foster care (after also being approved as a foster home during the second process mentioned above, then being put on hold after DS came) because even though we had been through the process and approved TWICE with the province in the last five years, and after adopting twice through an agency, parenting children with special needs (transethnic and prenatal exposure, which are both big special needs issues in our area), they wanted us to start completely over. And we were ready and capable to foster now but were honestly, really tired of jumping through the hoops they required to redo things we had already done when our life really hadn't changed that much. It's frustrating that a system that needs families so much to care for the children who need care aren't able to work in a way that attracts families to do the work.