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You need to start by expecting less for the reward, or come up with a more desirable reward. You also need to make sure you are not giving lots of attention for his complaining, and giving little attention for what he is doing right. You appear to be in sort of a power struggle with him, which you can break by making him an offer he can't refuse (well, can't resist). Come up with an immediate and positive reward for doing a little work. Get him started and motivated. There is a DVD called "Eliminating the Homework Wars" that will explain this.
A really good behavioral parenting book, which is what you need, is The Power of Positive Parenting by Glenn I. Latham
Good luck
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