[Fran27]

My first choice was foster-to-adopt... But after talking about it with several other people from PA, they told me that it's pretty hard in this state to be able to adopt infants this way, as reunification is often the goal that judges have in mind. I don't know how much of it is true, but we wanted an infant, so we went the agency route.

Now we'll have some parenting experience though and I would love to adopt an older sibling set down the road... but we'd need a bigger house and it won't be for several years anyway, and I really want to preserve the birth order as much as possible so dh might be too old by then anyway (he's 45). We'll see!