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Now Linny can you explain what offensive comments were made by AA about your kids.? --nickchris
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I didn't say that. Read my post again. I said that someone *else* might have taken offense to the comment made about my baby girl, but
I didn't believe the woman stating it meant it as so.
Did I think it strong (or weird) to say that to me? Yeah, I did...especially when she yelled it while rushing across the room to see the baby in our pediatrician's office.
I'd asked other people (adoptive parents and other AA individuals) if *they'd * ever heard that term before----they hadn't and thought it was weird.
The point was, someone can make a comment but they don't necessarily mean to be offensive; and that the OP stating she 'wanted to learn more', should be taken as sincere unless/until something is written otherwise, rather than criticizing her right off the bat.
ETA: I see the comment you may have been referring to?
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I've heard much worse about my children and others by people of the same ethnicity....whether adoptive parents or not. I'm NOT excusing the comments in any way; but I think it's too quick to jump on someone about any comments when they said they've come here to learn to begin with. ---Linny
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I've had people remark about their hair and the style my girls' prefer. (Just pigtails or simple braids, nothing more.) And a few have made comments about how the girls *should* be wearing their hair in this and that styles-----right in front of the girls as if they couldn't even hear or understand what was being said. They are now 7yrs and 5yrs old---
they don't appreciate those comments. I've also had one older woman 'challenge' me---in front of the girls, asking
rudely 'Why would I want an AA baby/child?!?" And I could have been just as rude and arrogant as that lady was, but knew it wouldn't do any good to return in rudeness, because of her ignorance.
Sincerely,
Linny