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I would agree that the term 'afro-baby' is offensive; but perhaps everyone needs to take a breath? C'mon, these types of comments are said by ALL ethnicities...even the ones they're supposed to refer to.
We've raised two Asian babies to adulthood; and now the parents to three AA babies growing well and happy. But, I have to tell ya, one of the strongest comments I heard about our 'first' AA baby, was from an AA woman who remarked about her very dark skin by gasping out, "Ohhhhhhhhh!!!!!! You have a CHOCO-BOCO BABY!!!!!'
While I thought the comment was weird...so weird that I asked some of my friends if they'd ever heard of that comment before (none had)-----I didn't find it offensive. Would *I* use it? No, but I don't think the woman exclaiming it meant to offend me---OR my daughter.
As DDW explains, there are a LOT of comment still floating around that are meant to describe someone. Wrong or right (and I know they're wrong, IMO)......it's a matter of what's been acceptable in years past, and NOW considering that those comments are not in the best interest of anyone now, KWIM?
IF...and I say, IF the OP is sincere, stick around and read what's being presented in polite manners. If you're considering adopting any child of color, at least you have the intelligence and foresight to ask now, educate yourself and try to be a better parent.
I've heard much worse about my children and others by people of the same ethnicity....whether adoptive parents or not. I'm NOT excusing the comments in any way; but I think it's too quick to jump on someone about any comments when they said they've come here to learn to begin with.
Sincerely,
Linny
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