[shainamsu]

i was just wondering. we feel so connected with our foster, but she's got some issues that are still coming out. sometimes, though, i don't feel connected with her at all. like today, she didn't like something that had happened (something minor, i can't even remember it now) and said that she wanted to go back to her previous foster mom (who was NOT a very good influence, btw). i know it's b/c she likely got away with more there than here, but it's still so frustrating!

and she talks about her mom all the time and when she's going home, what she's going to do with her mom, and tells strangers these grand stories about how her mom visits her every night, and they go to the zoo, etc, which they don't. again, i know it's all normal behavior for her situation, but, i'm just wondering... i don't want to adopt her if she doesn't want to be here. sometimes i wonder if i'll be able to handle the next ten years of her asking about her mom and wanting to be somewhere else...

*sigh* i dont know, i'm just venting here. any thoughts? how did you "know" that you would adopt your foster and what challenges did you face or are still facing?