Hello, I read your quandry, and only a simple thought came to mind....adopted children, as well as bio children, should ALWAYS be told the truth. My saying this ..is a firm belief that all children deserve. I do not know if your other children are adopted from relatives, if not the truth of uncles being uncles is of TRUTH. However if this child you may adopt, is indeed the grandchild to your brother, then this child should be allowed the TRUTH. By explaining this to the other children ( the why of this child calling their uncle ..grandpa,), should be explained in simplicity, and therefore will have a greater respect for being told the truth. This is just my opinion...do not take this in any offense, I just feel adopted children are lied to..or led to live lies, way too much. Now , I also think " Grandpa" needs a little sermon, on how to not show favortism, this is about as damaging as being lied to! I think, if it were I, if this could not be down satisfacory by both parties, then I would say no thank you! Blessings, C.J.
