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Originally Posted by Dickons
Josie - I am an adoptee from the closed era...I hope you don't mind but reading through the posts only a few seemed to understand and discuss your question
That is the perfect opening to talk to your child when he is older about grieving over losing his birth family, the need to work through it, recognise it, and that you have empathy for what he will go through.
To have the ability to understand that your sadness over what you have missed, could be the path to ensuring your child has a mom he can turn to without judgement, is probably the greatest gift you can give him.
Kind regards,
Dickons
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Thank you for ALL the responses--I'm glad other moms see where I am coming from! And yes, Dickons--this is what I was really getting at. I wan Owen to know that I mourn lost time w/him, I mourn for the loss his bmom suffered and that he suffered. As much as we love each other, I know he'll be sad someday about his bmom and that loss. I want him to be able to feel that grief w/o shame or fear that I'll reject his emotions.