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As a mom who went through the state, you have to be sure your children can handle an adoption through the state. It is not for the faint of heart.
Adoption is a rollercoaster, but fost/adopt is like riding a rollercoaster with a blindfold on, never knowing when the ride will end, or what the layout of the rollercoaster is, and having people drop in and out of your car giving you information about when the ride will end and/or what's coming up next. Sometimes this information is truthful, sometimes it's an out right lie, and sometimes it was the truth at that moment but now everything has changed and its no longer true.
And it's not just the adults on this ride, but the entire family.
Out of my four go rounds with DCF, I had one GREAT, EXCELLENT CW. She loved children and loved her job. Then I had the man who hated his job and didn't care about kids at all, the CW who was a racist, and the CW who was high off the power the job gave her and had no common sense to boot.
With all that said, I don't want to discourage anyone from going the foster adopt route, but I just want you to know it's, in my opinion, the most difficult type of adoption out there. To have a child, you grow to love in your house for months, years, and to always know in the back of your mind it could all end in an instant until that final adoption decree is signed isn't easy. Your experience through foster care depends greatly on the judge the child has and the CW.
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