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I don't know that I grieve over missed time--I do grieve over not having been able to bring Bryan home sooner--I think a lot of his attachment issues would have been better. For instance, Bryan's typical response to new situations is to be really wild (running, throwing things, hitting--even at age 3). When I visited at 10 months and 13 months he was calmer than when we brought him home--maybe he would have attached easier and not been so frantic if we'd been able to bring him home younger. I also wonder about my visiting him--did I contribute to his anxiety? Did he see my visits as yet another "abandonment"? If he didn't remember me from one time to the next, did he think even more people were abandoning him?
A 6-9 month wait to come home is certainly not ideal for parents or children!
Carolyn
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Carolyn-Mom to 5 blessings, incl. 2 from Guatemala! 
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