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The names on my non-id were balcked out too, and I found out that much of the info was fabricated. But they forgot to black out my paternal grandmothers name, thankfully, cause that was the only way I was able to find my people.
What ever your contact method is, keep it as private as possible. be careful what you say to people during your search too, you never know who might know your mother or family. I would avoid the preacher at all costs.
I have seen in many cases, including mine, that the mom hasn't told anyone in her life, ever. And the thought of her dreaded secret coming out to her family was the most scariest part of all for her. And a lot of times it takes the found party a while to swallow and get over the shock of being found. It took my mom 9 months to tell her husband and daughter and then contact me. Although she still hasn't told her son. I thought for sure I would never hear from her. But I did 8 years ago, and we have had a close long distance relationship since.
A certified letter is a good way. I'd suggest contacting her yourself, even if it is by phone, because it is all between parent and child, no one else, especially at first.
Keep in mind, it's easier for someone to freak out and tell anyone other than their child that they don't want contact. But if it is their child contacting them directly, it makes it much more real and much more difficult to deny contact because of fear.
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