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Wow
Great Non-id info. I got blanked out names, towns, birthdates, even the year they graduated - even though the writing said they had both graduated from high school the previous year. Even I could figure that out from my birthdate. Good luck to everyone in finding that missing piece.
If you use an search angel or an intermediary of some kind, sometimes they will contact them for you. I was very lucky - I was found by someone who was a friend of bmom. So after she found me, she told bmom in person. I did call her but it was 24 hours later so she had a little time to process it. My sister called cold turkey and her bmom handled it very well - but I'm not sure I could have and that first conversation is so unreal anyway. Can you imagine - you are going about your day to day business - and you get this call????
If you do write a letter, then be sure you do something to make sure that your bparents get the letter. Some return receipt or something - maybe even pay the extra so you can track it. Also many people have suggested putting in a selfaddressed letter so that bmom can check things off - Contact information, I do not want contact at this time, I will provide medical, etc.... so that even if she doesn't want contact you will know it and you can get medical information, etc. You don't want to try to assume what anyone else thinks in this matter. Make it easy for her to respond.
Again - Good luck. Hope your reunion dreams come true.
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