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Juliana and Calimom -- I know exactly how you feel. Nomatter what our head knows about foster care, our hearts open up to these children so easily. It feels so right that they are with us. The fact that we know that going home is not always the best makes it that much harder. I had that with our fd. I know that her mom is unstable and most likely will not properly care for her. Dad is a first timer, and has his own issues. It has not been easy accepting the fact that they go to homes way less stable, loving, safe, etc. than ours. Our GAL actually stated in court that our home was top of the line, and she told me that the birth parents won't even come close to the same standard of care. That is not the point. She is their child and that is that. I also can appreciate that feeling of 'she's meant to be with us'. Our daughter was half vietnamese in a primarily white county. We had planned on a vietnamese adoption before fostering, so we felt this was fate. I know how it feels not only to hurt, but to feel confused and let down. We just have to do the best we can, love the kids and believe that the right ones will stay. Let's at least support each other, and know we are truly meeting a need.
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