[ajjhmf]

Well, knowing what he's doing at bedtime changes my answer.

My advice would be to seek out a therapist specializing in trauma. Attachment therapy is a great start (even if you think he's attached, ATs are excellent at delving to the root of the trauma.)

You child will not be able to move forward without the right kind of therapy. The wrong kind will do more damage, so be sure to look for a therapist dealing specifically with trauma/attachment and adoption stuff. It does help, but its a long hard road.


Edited to add: Honestly, I would be more concerned about what he's been doing at bedtime than the flashing. Flashing can be a normal boy thing, spreading your cheeks for your dad is not.