[mommamarci]

Do you have ongoing visit type contact? Our families were VERY uncertain about open adoption. Then my one and only visit that I have had with Cameron's bmom, my mom was there for. (Dh had to leave and go back to work and mom did not want me to be alone in a different state with a baby, so she came to stay with me.) That made all the difference. My mom thinks E is the best and sweetest person. I cannot tell you how many times I have heard her defend E and the openess since then. (We still have an open adoption, but have not had any more visits per E's wishes.)

Maybe if some of your immediate family members met her, their opinions would change. My mom could see how much E loved Cameron and how hard it was. She knew that E would never do anything to hurt or cause pain for Cameron. It was unintentional, but that is how we made open adoptions a great idea in our family!