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Most everyone are supportive now. But then, they birth families of our kids aren't overly involved in our lives. Both sets of grandparents had quite a few reservations about an open relationship with our kids' other families but alot of it, after conversation (I kept bringing it up gently in talking about our interaction with birth family) I found out ALOT, I should say, almost ALL of it was based on misconceptions they had formed based on "this story" or "that friend" that went through it. For one family member, it was really hard because she had placed a child and always thought she did what she had to do by accepting a closed relationship (she knows NOTHING and her daughter is turning 27) and it's brought up alot of hard things for her. They were concerned because our kids' other families have lived very different lives and they didn't want that to affect us. They were concerned that we would get hurt through it all and we have but we're still committed. We always speak gently and positively about what is going on. And we have told those who struggle with it, gently told them, that this is our choice so this is the way it is.
It was the same way when we decided to adopt. They were mostly just anxious for us based on what they knew of adoption, which was very limited and anecdotal. We plugged through and they have willingly and lovingly accepted our children as their family.
HTH...
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Tammy
Momma to Two Great Kids!!!!
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