[portlowski]

My father and step mom do NOT GET IT. It is very annoying. They won't come to events where our son's birthparents will be there. My stepmom keeps saying things like, "don't you wish you didn't have to deal with all this?" And when I say nol I don't mind, I am doing it for my son, I like our relationship etc. she will repeat, "but wouldn't it be better if they just dropped out fo the picture.?" Sigh. Now I just don't involve my parents (my mom is deceased, so dad and step mom) in it at all. I didn't even invite them to ds's birthday party because his birthfamily was there. Hard, but not worth the stress for me. My husband's family is totally cool with it, as is the rest of my family. My aunt and ds's birthgrandma get along great!