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I was going to say the same thing as Elle...I have seen people say that when adopted kids don't have separation anxiety, it is due to the adoption. And if they do have separation anxiety, it is due to the adoption.
I think the reality is that kids are individuals with different personalities. My DD never really has had separation anxiety issues...(I used to call her "community baby!"). That doesn't mean that she doesn't "look" to DH and I first to comfort her, etc. (in fact, she looks to us every night when she crawls into bed with us at 3 a.m....arrgh!). I am married to an adoptee and while he can't speak for all adoptees, he thinks that people can really get "worked up" about trying to relate everything back to an adoption issue, when it just isn't "there." I am not saying not to be sensitive to issues that ARE there due to adoption, but just to realize that many things are not adoption-related (imo). GOOD LUCK!!
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