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My daughter came home at 15 months. I have 3 bios before her so I knew every painful day what I was missing with her. But once she came home that all was pushed away. (not forgotten) She just turned 6 the other day. While I did not get to see the first tooth pop out, I just got to see her lose the first one! I do not grieve over the missed things any more. I rejoice in the new ones. I do talk openly to her about her adoption and how much we missed her while we waited. I have a lifebook, or scrapbook that documents those beginning days. She loves to look through it. The most painful pages are the ones from her first Christmas and first birthday. I think that the more open and honest you are with them, the more secure they are with you. IMO
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Donna - Mom to beautiful princess Belen!
Good things come to those who wait!
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