[kirbystarcat]

I have had this too lately. DD came home at 19 mo and DS came home at 8 mo. DD was older coming home and I just accepted that and knew from the beginning that that was how it was going to be. Now that DS is walking and reaching all these different little milestones everyday do I see what we missed with DD while we waited.
What I keep telling myself though is that DD is who she is because of the life experiences she had living in a hogar away from us---she's fiercely independent, yet easy going and a total love bug. She wouldn't necessarily be the same kiddo we know and love today if she had come to us sooner. I love that she still knows some of her caregivers names if she sees pictures of them and that she has some memory of that time. I hope she keeps it as time passes and she gets older. DS won't have that.