[JosieWales]

We have a 5mo old bio baby, Owen's little brother. Owen (27 mo) came home at 9mo. I am not saying I lie around weeping for the time I didn't get to spend w/him--we live our lives happily as they are! But w/Ian, our baby, I realize just how many wonderful, amazing milestones we missed with sweet Owen.

And, I think that is something I can let Owen know, when he's older and we talk more about his adoption (and how that differs from how his brother joined our family). From what I have read, sharing sadness about the bmom's situation that led to the adoption plan, and about the aparent's inability to have the achild immediately (as in our case), etc., is an important thing and helps the child understand that it's ok to be sad about some things in relation to his/her adoption.

Just wondered if anyone else felt this way, or if you agree/disagree w/the idea of talking about it w/the child (if you have older akids that would be even better--you'll have experience!).