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Old 01-13-2009, 06:45 PM
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Originally Posted by bethy724
If you don't have contact with or a relationship with a person in over 2-3 years I don't see how you are considered family even if the biology is there. I haven't spoken to my cousins in years & if I found out their children have been in foster care for years I wouldn't step in even though they are biologically family & I have a foster care license- I consider family those who take care of & love you.

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I'm with you here. I believe family is who you make your family - not who you share a blood tie with. My children don't have a blood tie to me and they are definitely my family. I have a "mom" that helped raise me for 12 years and even though she's not even married to my father (for over 10 years now) I still consider her family and my boys call her grandma.

If I heard my blood relatives kids' were in care I wouldn't try any harder to get them then I would if I heard my neighbors' kids were in care (I don't know my neighbors.)

If my friends' kids were in care - the friends that spend the holidays with us and that are part of our family - I would fight tooth and nail for them.
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