[CaddoRose]

Our CW told us we had to offer three meals a day and two snacks. She said that several times to reiterate that they do not have to eat what we offer. It's their choice to not eat. I document the food I offer and if it's not eaten so that if it became an issue I could show I was offering normal healthy meals and the kids were choosing to not eat it.

We eat lots of veggies. I would say we are on the verge of being vegetarians(which I was for 8 yrs). After Bubba came to our house, his sister who we had already had for several months, decided that she didn't like veggies. Too bad. I think it was a control issue for her. She had been happily eating green beans, carrots, edamame, squash,etc without ever saying a word about it or refusing them.She wanted french fries and cookies. Guess who didn't eat much for two days? I don't offer alternatives either.

My kids had only eaten fast food. She knew the sign for every fast food joint around and would scream with glee when she would see one. She had never seen people actually cook. It took a few months of telling her I had to cook for her to understand that food didn't just magically appear in a bag.

So keep cooking good food and offering it for meals. When they get hungry,they will eat. We're not short order cooks, we're foster parents and a part of being a foster parent is to show these kids what a real home life is like.