[bethy724]

If you don't have contact with or a relationship with a person in over 2-3 years I don't see how you are considered family even if the biology is there. I haven't spoken to my cousins in years & if I found out their children have been in foster care for years I wouldn't step in even though they are biologically family & I have a foster care license- I consider family those who take care of & love you.

I will say this-it is an absolute DISGRACE when the courts, cw's & judges drag their feet if a family is interested in the first few months a child is in care. I know the bio parents in my son's case were asked what family they wanted him placed with in the first month he was in care- I had no problem taking care of him until they could find family. When relative names are thrown out there years AFTER the child is in care & "family" finds out after years in care it's just not in the best interest of the child. It's just my opinion & thoughts.