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Originally Posted by OakShannon
But I do get, "Is that your baby?" a lot. The fact is, it's a logical question. I could be the nanny. Or a friend of the family. With questions like that, I've decided that if a one word answer will do, that's what I give. A simple "yes" with a smile works 95% if the time. I don't want to qualify it or explain it further because curious strangers, even friendly ones, really don't need any more information. And a longer answer is more likely to invite follow-up questions.
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Oak, I guess sometimes even the question is bothersome to me. Maybe it is because I would never (pre- or post-) adoption ask a stranger if it was his or her child. Why in the world is it my business if you are the mother, the nanny, etc.? Other than people curious about adoption, of course...
I would say something like, "Wow! What a cutie!!" and leave it at that. I don't consider it my business if the child someone is holding is their child or not...that said, it will not stop the questions from others!
That said, and this is ironic, I am so proud that my children are adopted! I guess I am still searching for the "right place" to be proud without oversharing and feeling like I need to answer questions when I am just out with my sons.
(ETA: I hope I don't sound like a bitter old shrew! I'm not, I promise!)