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Originally Posted by Sohmakun
If you cannot afford to have anymore children then by all means DO NOT adopt again. Believe me, your child will know when there are not "wanted" by their parents and it would only wreck havoc on your relationship with them. If you want you son to have another sibling then make sure your whole heart is into it- along with the rest of the family's.
My only problem with having a sibling so far apart in age is the fact that they will have different interest because they are in different stages of their lives. Your son may feel like more of a "babysitter" to the new edition instead of a "playmate" I know I did when my third sister came into our family.
If theis cousin doesn't mind you asking then go ahead. Try to be curtious and listen to her advice too.
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What? I'm saying I don't know if we can afford the adoption FEES, not that we can't afford to raise another child. We just don't have another $25K (or more, who knows what fees will be like in 3 years) lying around. If we adopted another child, of course he/she would be very much wanted! That's what this whole post is about, we want to, just don't know if it's possible, so I'm asking about what if it's not possible. And I would never have the older child be simply a babysitter. Ainsley and Bea are 3 years older than Caleb, and at this stage, I think it's a great spacing, they are a little more independent, they love to help me, they are awesome big sisters. I guess I was thinking about how close A&B are, being twins, and I kind of wanted the same for Caleb.
Joskids - you're right, I don't know what the future will hold! I've been thinking about foster care in the future. Maybe once we move (we're planning on moving to a more diverse area).
I'll try to think of a good way to broach the adoption subject with my cousin. Maybe just like do you have any advice for me, something like that?
Thanks all! This thread has made me feel better.