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Just my personal opinion, but I don't think 3-4 years apart would be that big of a deal. Plenty of siblings out there are at least that far apart or more and grew up close. In fact, we plan on adopting another child transracially and that was our goal for how far apart in age they would be. It may help the oldest child bond with their new younger sibling by being able to help their parent(s) take care of the younger one. I think what joskids suggested is such a good idea, especially if you choose or are unable to adopt another child. We have a group like that near us and it's great. I think if you could connect your son with another child around his age that was adopted transracially, at least he could have someone else to relate to, even if they weren't a sibling.
I had to say, too, that I have a cousin that was adopted transracially from Korea too (well, it's my DH's cousin). I have always wanted to ask her questions too but just never knew how to approach it. She has also never seemed bothered by being the only person of her race in our family. I'd love to talk to her about her adoption and how she feels about certain things and hope, someday, we both feel comfortable enough to talk about those things.
As far as finances, especially if you're interested in adopting a little older infant/toddler, maybe adopting through foster care would be a good option to explore. If that's not a good fit for your family to add to your family, though, I really think your child will be fine as the only transracially adopted child in your family as long as you find other outlets for him to connect with other children in similar families and his own culture.
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