This thread of being grateful and positive that we weren't aborted, but adopted instead seems to be very triggereing to many for obvious reasons
including the fact that
politics and emotions don't mix so well.
This thread, being grateful that we weren't aborted, grateful to be adopted instead - is purely a political statement, a statement and arguement to aid in adoption advertising and pro-life support.
Wouldn't the adoption agencies be thrilled if Roe vsWade was overturned, business would be booming! once again!
We are are asked for positive adoption stories.
I see the adoption part of my separation as being positive - I have positive relationships with adopted family, I was able to adapt and integrate into their family, there is love and it's very likely it will last forever. It's easy to make that part positive, but only because I got lucky and got understanding and loving parents. Just because you were adopted doesn't always mean you will get suitable parents or wish that you weren't aborted instead.
So I am not sure, according to this thread, if my story is truely positive. I think not. So why am I posting here, right?
"The purpose of this project is not to advocate adoption over parenting, but rather, adoption over abortion! It is, of course, normal for most birthparents to wish they hadn’t been put into the position to choose adoption; however, there was a reason adoption was the choice over abortion, and we’d like to hear your stories about why you made that choice."
This paragraph..... oh boy.... I choose life over death usually, but boy oh boy
#1, my mother is highly offended and triggered, like many, she never even considered abortion, had nothing to do with the "choice" to relinquish me.
#2, A pregnant female chooses between abortion and continuing the pregnancy. If she chose adoption at or before 3 months pregnant... I hope no one would support her in that decision unless she has already been deemed unfit to raise a child.
Certainly she could consider adoption at that point, but deciding on adoption at that point would be an uninformed or possibly coerced decision.
I am against pregnant mothers deciding 100% on adoption until she has had the baby, has had time to actually see what it would feel like to live without her baby in her arms. Anything less can be and has been so traumatic to the mothers, hopeful adopted families and especially the babies when it so often doesn't "work out".
A mother ultimately chooses between raising a born child and relinquishing a born child to adoption. Can you relinquish an unborn child legally?
#3 - um because my mother didn't choose abortion, I should be grateful for being adopted? I think all of us should be grateful we were born, has nothing to do with where we are raised.
If you ask me, they are just looking for stories, in a tricky way, to substanciate their adoption is for the best pitch.
A couple of billion of our tax dollars are spent each year to promote adoption..........and this is one of the ways they choose to do it.
Just my opinion, one I will probably get tossed for