Sgtfirstwife, wow! I really admire your strength. I would have fallen apart long ago. You are brave and it also sounds like you know when it's time to step away. There's a part of me that wants to be wide open and take a lot of risk, thinking it will all work out for the best. But like everyone else, it scares me to no end. I hope 2009 is a wonderful year for you and your family with these adoptions being finalized.
We intend on telling my DS that we don't know how long the child will be able to stay with us. It's the truth, but we are worried about the impact on him losing what he may feel is a sibling.
Wannabeamomma, thank you for your post. We were also considering a wait for a legally free child but our agency has talked us out of it (for now
). It seems that '08 was a tough year for most, so I am counting on 2009 to be a fantastic year for us all! Please post when you hear something! I like that you have a plan B. I just believe that in this process you never know what will happen.
I did finally connect yesterday with out adoptions worker. She went down her matching list; what we are and are not open to. She told me that 90% of fp are looking for a child under age 5 and that only 10% of the kiddo population is that age. She told me to expect to wait 9 mos. to a year. We spoke for a while so I have a better grasp of how things will work. Our file is being sent to a few counties and then when a case comes up that may meet our criteria, a sw will review our home study and determine if we may be a potential match. But, understandably, families who have been waiting for the longest are reviewed first. So, my friends, we are now standing in line.
In the meantime, I will be going into the agency's office next week to review their database of waiting children...I need to be proactive/keep busy in this waiting game.
