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As always with adopted kids, you want to rule out any attachment possibilities, of course. Having said that, the kids in my family, when they were this age, and older, definitely preferred their mom as their caregiver and struggled when she wasn't around. One niece would get so incredibly sad, actually limp, if her mom was gone a significant (all day) length of time, another struggled and struggled to go to pre-school a few days a week. My daughter (3) has become very used to going to child care, but give us a three day weekend, and the first day back at school is going to be a challenge. I don't blame her...I want to be with her too!
So, I tend to think that it's pretty normal to want mom (and/or dad, in two parent families), especially if your daughter isn't showing other signs of anxious attachment (such as being angry with you or avoiding you when you do come back to her) How kids express that they want mom is going to be different, some will cry, some will become silent, others will become disruptive; but it's not being bad...it's just wanting to be with the person with whom they feel the safest and love most.
Susan
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