[EandDmom]

If ours ever gets tpr'd and we adopt dh and I have decided the most we will do is send her a pic of each and an update letter once a year. The girl is going to have enough issues moving on past mom as it is and we don't want to confuse the boys as they aren't really bonded to her. Infact, she kind of ignores them. She gives the girl a little trinket thing at every visit but never anything for either boy. I plan on trying to set it up thru dcs and she can pick it up there if she wants them. The casa has said if they don't go back to mom she wants us to adopt them and agree to still have contact with their cousins that they were all living together with. We don't know..they went back to their mom and dad so we would still have to deal with the aunt who also helped raise them. The kids don't ever talk about them anymore the casa has taken them twice for a visit to play with cousins and she says they love it well they love playing with anyone. They never seem excited that they have seen any of them infact they get more excited about seeing our nieces every week and they would infact be their cousins if we ever adopt them their old cousins wouldn't be anymore. It is so hard to know what is the best for the kids.