[AmahMama]

I would not make it legally binding agreemtent for visitation. I may, maybe...., make an agreement that the bio's would have an address to mail to (a po box, as suggested). ESPECIALLY if the therapist does not agree that open visitation would be good. Not only that, you have no idea where you might be in 5, 10, or 12 years. You make a legally binding obligation for visits - you may have to come a long way - and then have no-shows. It has happened - to many - to people I know as well as op's. Check back thru the threads about open adoptions! My dd agreed to keep an address for the bio to mail to... (mine).... and in 5 years we heard nor got nothing. Then a christmas card for them (she adopted a sib grp of 3). Then nothing for years, and then a letter from another state saying how great she is doing (because she had another child she didn't want to lose and got straight, in another state). My dd does not want to let the kids know that bio wasn't able to get straight for them - but could for another.... she saved the letter and card and will give the address to each of them when they turn 21. At 18 the oldest still doesn't deal well with the abandonment issue and she doesn't feel that he is mature enough not to go off on a tangent of some sort.

So be careful about making any sort of arrangements - and most especially legal ones. Openness is great if it works for you, but there again, you won't have transporters, cps, or the courts rules for backup. I would maybe make a gent's agreement to think about it....