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Originally Posted by bromanchik
Pardon me, but I think this is a big bunch of Hooey. It is a convenient way to blame yourself, or for others to blame the victim. For some it may be comforting. Instead of being a hot to trot 23 year old (which I was) I can say I chose this painful path to learn something. I just don't buy it.
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I don't see it as a convenient way to blame myself, Brenda. I do see it, perhaps, as a way to take control of my own life. I don't know...it's just an idea that I've been playing with in my mind lately. I certainly didn't intend to imply that anyone is to blame.
As far as this notion being a bunch of "hooey," I guess a lot of the Western world would agree with you. But the Eastern religions tend to believe in reincarnation and choosing one's own spiritual paths.
I like what SoniaRose said:
It's a way of answering that unanswerable question: why do bad things happen to good people? Everything that happens is a part of God's plan for us, and we often choose a difficult path so we can learn and progress more." This is pretty much what Jackie was saying on that thread several months ago that I was thinking of earlier today...that sometimes we choose difficult paths in order to progress spiritually.
I'm a Roman Catholic (raised Methodist, converted as an adult), yet I do have a lot of affinity for Eastern philosophies. I've known too many small children who have dreams about previous lifetimes, myself included. My mom told me once that I really freaked her out when I was a small kid. Evidently I had recurring nightmares for several years about being a medic in some long-ago war. The dream would always end the same way: I am running toward a foxhole to reach a wounded soldier, when a huge explosion occurs. I get thrown up in the air, and then suddenly, I'm looking down on myself in that foxhole, and everything goes hazy...
Anyway, I digress. I just want to make sure that everyone here realizes that I'm not trying to blame anyone for being put into the position of relinquishing their child. I just thought it would be an interesting subject to explore...