[Amber76]

Oh, how I understand what you are saying about this! We've thought about the same things. As far as the age difference goes, though, I don't think 3 or 4 years is a big deal at all. My older sister was 3 years older than me, and my younger sister is 6 years younger. My older sister and I talked about everything-even though we were so totally different that it isn't even funny-and I always felt like we were pretty close before she passed away a few years ago. My younger sister is my best friend in the whole world-6 years was a lot when we were 12 and 6, not so much when we were 12 and 18, and not an issue at all now that we are 32 and 26.

I wish our finances were a little healthier and our house a little bigger too, but we're going to try to find a way to adopt again because we want another child, and it would be icing on the cake if our second child could be Latino like Ben.
Good luck, Chroma! I hope that somehow you find yourself in a situation that is perfect for you and your family.