Our bio DD is almost 10 and her future is unclear. She is pretty high functioning, but very naive and we are not sure she will ever be able to take care of herself without being taken advantage of. Physically she could manage, but emotionally and intellectually, we just don't know.
That being said, we do not have a plan for her beyond our lives. If we both passed and she was still a minor, we have close friends who will take all of our kids. We have not been in a place to discuss the adult chapter of her life yet.
As a side note on government run group homes, we are not too comfortable with that option either. I know a family whose mother is in a private home nursing facility. I have thought about doing the same kind of thing when our other kids leave home: having a private group home for disabled adults. If we have DD at home we might as well have other "kids" here too! It is not like we'll ever get to live alone anyway
